“The more specific you are about what you want, the better I can take care of you.” Rusty McMann
A lot of men who come to me are hiring an escort for the first time and they have a lot of questions about what to do and how to act. But aside from the basics of the transaction, there is no set protocol. Or if there is, no one’s told me about it yet.
Hiring an escort is one of the few things in life that really is all about you – and it’s up to you to make sure you enjoy yourself. The easiest way to do that is to know what you want and then ask for it. Some guys are shy about asking for what they want, and I understand that, especially if you’re experimenting with something… well… a flavor other than vanilla. But believe me, I am the last person in the world to pass judgment. I’ve heard it all and I’ve done most of it, so nothing fazes me anymore. If you want something that isn’t in my repertoire, I’ll simply say no… and if I can, I’ll recommend someone better suited to meet your needs.
Hint: Lots of guys who are too shy to talk about what they want find e-mail a good alternative. Personally, I prefer e-mail to the phone. I can take the time to write exactly what I mean, and I don’t stammer at the keyboard.
Bargaining 101
 Bargaining is a sticky wicket. Some guys are afraid to offer me anything less than my full hourly for fear of insulting me; other guys open the conversation by asking for two hours for the price of one (which I don’t recommend). I spent 3 years as a caterer in Hollywood, so trust me: I know how to bargain. I happen to be the product as well as the salesman, but I’m still running as small business, and I know what I’m doing.
As a rule of thumb, the first hour is non-negotiable; after that, almost everything is open to discussion. My standard rates are $150/hr and $800 for an overnight. I know what my time is worth, and I also know what it’s like to go shopping on a budget. You can rest assured that I’m not going to spend all night haggling over how many cents per mile I want to drive to the Utah border (it’s been tried). However, if you want a multiple-hour appointment, you need to know what you want to spend and then make me an offer. The same goes for multi-day trips: airfare, lodging and meals are non-negotiable, but the fee for my time is open to discussion – up to a point. So make an offer and we’ll take it from there.
The Safe Word
A safe word is a word or phrase that either partner can say when a sexual and/or role play situation gets too uncomfortable to continue. It’s a way to stop the action without saying “no” or begging for mercy, so there’s no question about whether or not what you’re saying is part of the scene. A lot of people use names of fruits or vegetables – because “pumpkin” is something they’d never say while under a man’s boot. Once in a bath house I heard someone being spanked yell out “pretty pretty princess” which stopped all the action in the joint.
There is no overestimating the psychological risks involved in role play, which makes the use of a safe word essential – whether or not physical pain is at issue. I have to go someplace pretty dark to play a “mean daddy” or “plantation master” and if I go too far I need to know right away.
A Word About Tipping
Over the course of my 20 years in Manhattan – between working as a waiter, going to bars, and having a superintendent in my apartment building – I learned a lot about how tipping works. Sometimes a tip is a thank you for a job well done; and sometimes a tip is a bribe for next time.
Look: I’m very well paid for what I do; I understand that and I don’t expect to be tipped as a matter of course. And I always appreciate tips when I get them. If, on the other hand, I do a favor for a client (like picking up a few things from CVS on my way to your hotel room) and I don’t see any extra love at the end of the night… I’ll be less likely to do it for you again.
And yes, a joint is a perfectly acceptable tip.
 
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