What's an Intimacy Consultant?

Once upon a time… there was a boy who grew up in a very conservative family in an even more conservative country.  In most of the world there was a sexual revolution going on, but where this kid lived it was still the Eisenhower salad days where everyone knew how they were supposed to behave and what they could and couldn’t talk about – in public, or behind closed doors.

The first time this kid saw a naked man he understood why he’d felt so different and alone… and he grew up fearing that any expression of his sexuality would give away his homosexuality.  He wasn’t quite sure what would happen if people did find out he was gay, but he was sure it wouldn’t be good. . So he ate a little too much and he drank a little too much and did everything he could to keep that part of himself buried.  Then, before he knew it, he was about to turn forty and he was tired of being alone, and he had no idea what to do next.

But what the hell was he supposed to do?  Here he was on the verge of middle age, about to enter a dating pool filled with men who were a lot more experience than he.  And not just experienced in the mechanics of sucking and fucking and kissing and cuddling and running for the door after the first contraction of ejaculation… these other guys were also experienced in the social mores of gay dating (such as they are).  How on earth was he going to having any confidence?

Well… being a very right-brain kind of guy, our inexperienced hero had a thought:  why not hire someone to show him the ropes?  He even made a list of the things he wanted to experience before he’d be ready to start meeting men.  And that was where I came in.

Now before you roll your eyes in disbelief, try to keep in mind that – no matter how bad you had it growing up – not everybody had the same advantages that you had.  And not everybody has the sang-froid to even consider hiring an expert to help steer him through the rough spots of this brave new world of man-to-man action.

The first few guys who wanted me to teach them “how to be gay” didn’t tell me that’s why they’d come to me until after the heavy breathing was over.  I’ll never forget the guy who said, “The only man I’d ever kissed before was my father!”  But once ‘fessed up, amazed at his own bravery, he was able to move to the ‘advanced beginners” program.

Then came Avi:  a very handsome Israeli who was coming to Las Vegas for a week on business.  Since Vegas is where things happen that are never spoken of again, he figured, why not use his free time here to get some training in the arts of loving men.  Every night for a week I went to his hotel room at the Venetian and answered all the questions he’d been cataloguing since he was 14 but was afraid to ask lest anyone laugh at him for being so inexperienced at his age.

A year later, when Avi returned to Las Vegas for the same annual conference, he and his new boyfriend took me to dinner to thank me for giving him the skills and confidence to embark on the life he’d always imagined.

I don't claim to be any kind of genius, or an expert in the gay Kama Sutra, but I do provide a safe, non-judgmental opportunity for you to ask whatever you want, and try whatever you want.  I meet you where you are and move at a pace that the other guy is comfortable with.  Sometimes it’s just an hour in your hotel room, and sometimes it’s a weekend trip to a vacation spot where nobody knows you so you can practice walking on the beach hand-in-hand with another dude.  I’ve even been known to go on the occasional shopping trip to help a guy pick out a starter dildo.

Regardless of what you call me (intimacy consultant, erotic mentor, booty coach, Sir), or how much time you want to spend together, I take my role very seriously and will do my very best to make you feel safe.  So if you’re just a college boy who wants to try out your daddy fantasies or a guy who wants to try out a few kinks before springing them on your next ex-boyfriend, I will treat you with dignity and respect.  If there’s one guy you don’t need to be embarrassed in front of, it’s me.

And discretion, as they say, is always assured.

All money exchanged is strictly for time and companionship.